I’m not going into the many instances where I found this paternal guardian of my EGI to be horrifyingly inept, but to give you a few instances of what might happen if I let my guard down for him to become friend and comrade, settle down before the TV with him….
Father (this was when I was about 10, when I got bused for school integration with blacks): “If you ever get into a fight with a black, make sure to hit them in the stomach; that’s their weak point from all the shit that they eat. … purple soda and potato chips.”
Me: I didn’t have to be an expert in his Lamarckian fallacy to know that I would have gotten clobbered if I took his advice.
Father (in front of the television sometime in late 80s): “This Italian woman who married Hershel Walker, I don’t blame her.”
Me: “She’s not Italian dad, she’s Jewish.”
Who knows what kind of stupid things like this he might say that would keep me on guard, not trusting him, even when he was really trying to be a friendly dad, taking long walks with me to Grunnings for a chocolate malt in the evenings…
I’ve related these incidents before but its relevant:
Father: (around 1987): Go to see Naomi (I now know Jewish “therapist” that my mother found for me), she wants to help you.”
Me: I could use some calm and steadying while I prepare for the Series 7, its a dramatic change of direction into a brokerage career, so, ok, I’ll try it.
Naomi crashes (“intervenes with”) the (first instantiation of a) final grammar that would have enabled me to participate in America’s liberal society, as this “grammar” would have allowed me to rationalize and participate in society with the kind of denial that my parents and older siblings had.
Me (Final Grammar): “I don’t want a woman who’s dated a black.” I didn’t say you can’t, I said I don’t want. For me, this was really too big a concession, but a minimal concession from a liberal society if I was going to be able to participate on its “normal” level.
Naomi: Tries to subvert this final grammar, “even if it was a long time ago?”
I could give many more examples of her interventions and manipulations but needless to say, the brokerage career didn’t work out, with me utterly flustered and determined to go back to school more directly (brokerage was to pay for “studying science”) to defend White men against anti-racism and feminism; i.e., experiencing the need for a new Final Grammar (if I were to be able to look upon the government system as at all reasonable): “We don’t want.”
Then there was that experience, culminating in the subversion of my second final grammar in class.
My second final grammar: “We don’t want” (not “you can’t”, but “we don’t want”).
The subversion –
Professor: “Of course, nobody believes in racism anymore.”
Melt down, need to get out of America and back to my home nations.
Before I flee, my father is entrusted to take me on a trip to Italy and tell boastful stories about how he was put before the Supreme Court to say that he “just wanted the same rights as anyone.”